SET AND MIND:
What is “set” ?
Let’s ask webends:
“Readiness to think or respond in a predetermined way when confronted with a problem or stimulus situation.”
Every day we do things generally because our sets tell us to do it, not our minds. And our decisions or prejudices are because of our sets, not our minds. It’s like you have a computer, of course the new one is better, but you are used to the old one and don't want to change it. The one that is logical is our mind, and the ones that we just do and can’t give an explanation are our sets. But there’s an interesting point, one probably thinks that MIND is the most important and he/she would do only what his logic says. But in most cases we do what our SETS tell us to do, without even analyzing it logically.
A set is tronger than mind.
While changing a person’s set, you have to make him know what he/she will gain. Imagine you have a set like most of the people do to watch TV everyday for many hours without any aim, just wasting your time. You already know that it is not good for you, and you could probably do something that would really be beneficially for you. Or may be you don’t even think about that it is bad to waste your time doing nothing just watching TV. But if one comes and tells you that firstly you will have a benefit of doing many things like working on your own projects, making money and make your life more comfortable, that is make your life more the way you want it to be. Explains you every single step of doing so. Shows you what will you be after a few months or a few years after you stop just wasting your time watching TV and do something to improve your life quality. You might be inspired and start to do what that person tells you.
But think about think about the other way of encouraging you stop watching TV all the day or all your spare time. That person will tell you that watching TV is bad, wasting of time is bad, you’ll get old without even doing anything good, and without improving your life quality, you will get older year after year and finally die. Is this a way that will really motivate you? Might be, but it’s sure that the first way where that person would tell you all the positive things that you will gain if you do the necessary changes is much more effective. And don’t forget that the changes will happen as successful as they are conformable to his/her needs and wills. If a person is in need of money you should show him the points that will let him earn money, if a person has health problems, you should show him the points that will improve his/her health.
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